Loss is a part of life. We all grow and learn in an environment that features loved ones, friends, and peers, and eventually, these people will succumb to the ever-marching pace of time. Life is made meaningful by the fact that it will one day end. As a result, the impact that our loved ones and friends have on our lives is often monumental as we think back on great experiences, unforgettable triumphs, and even bitter defeats that were made better with these unflinching allies by our side.
While everyone will mourn many losses in their time, it doesn’t make the grieving process any easier. If you’re trying to be there for a loved one or dear friend who has lost someone, it can be a challenge to know the best approach. The truth is that everyone grieves differently, and everyone will need something different from the people who care about them. With these three ways to offer condolences, you can structure your support for any kind of need that your friend or family member might have.
1. Beef up your communication efforts for maximum support.
One thing that friends can do to support each other in times of need is to simply be there. A shoulder to cry on, an ear to listen, and more can provide the active support that someone mourning a loss may need in order to begin to let out their emotions and eventually start to heal.
At the funeral home, you can sit with your loved one or close friend and simply be there for them in this time of need. Many people want to talk through their feelings of grief, and acting as a close support system and listening to their stories, heartache, and more can offer some of the most important healing opportunities that can be found. Funeral homes themselves often offer this kind of healing and closure space. The service and wake can be a point of great pain for those who are suffering a loss, but it also gives everyone ample time to say their goodbyes and reminisce in the good times that were had together.
2. Take a hands-off approach to allow space for grieving and healing.
Another essential point of support is in simply not talking sometimes. Acting as a support structure for someone who is going through a loss is important, but some people won’t want to talk about their feelings or pain. A shut-out period can take hold for some who are grieving, and being there to simply spend time together is a great way to show that you aren’t pushing them to heal in a way that will feel unnatural or unhelpful to them.
Oftentimes, people want to open up about their feelings, but only at their own pace. Taking a hands-off approach to the grieving process for those who need this room to feel all on their own is a great way to be as supportive as you can while respecting the wishes of the person you care about.
3. Send a thoughtful gift to show that you care and are thinking of them.
Finally, it’s a great idea to send a plant gift or any other kind of token of your care. Sending someone who is mourning a loss a gift of some kind is a good way to show you are thinking of them without forcing them to engage in a conversation or other kind of back-and-forth that they may not be ready for.
Plants offer themselves as a great gift in these troubling times. This is because nature has an inherent healing property: Simply walking in the park can boost your mood and lower blood pressure. With an indoor plant like a succulent, orchid, or other houseplant blooms, you can show that you’re thinking of them without getting in the way of their ongoing grief and healing.
Consider these options for the best approach to helping someone who is mourning.